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1 QUOTE FROM OTHERS:
"As our children grow, we will be tempted to make life as easy as possible for them. Generally, this is out of love for them, but a parent’s own sense of competition or unresolved childhood conflicts may also play a role. Whatever the reason, these strategies tend to backfire, and ultimately leave our children unequipped to handle the inevitable adversity in the world.
On one side of the continuum, there is neglect where children are not given the enrichment, love, and support they require to develop to the best of their innate abilities. To these children, life is one frustration after the next, and it is tragically far from optimal.
The other side of the parenting range can also be insidious for a child’s development, although it goes largely unnoticed—unless there is something that brings it to light, such as the recent college admissions scandal. This form of parenting, colloquially labeled snowplow parenting, is when parents remove all obstacles in a child’s path to keep it smooth and clear.
Of course, we all know that a road never stays clear for long. Obstacles will arise, and we have to consider whether our children will be able to overcome them when we are not there to remove them."
Kurt W Ela, Psy. D, discussing resilience in children
Source: PsyToday |
